I have been inspired to write about my own intro to female led relationships (FLR), because it so radically changed my life and my relationship with sex.  I am a female in my early thirties whose sex life was what could always be described as satisfying, but after reading 50 Shades, something in my sexual psyche was awoken and I knew I must explore it further. The idea of sub/dom relationships always titillated my imagination and I was more than happy to try out a submissive role and found it erotic and stimulating.  However, my partner confessed that he would like to try out adopting the role of submissive as well and I agreed that it was only fair that he get a chance to live out his fantasies too.

Nowadays, BDSM is often used to describe a broad range of erotic practices that are perceived as beyond ordinary, and even deviant. But if you’ve ever blindfolded your lover, if you’ve ever spanked your partner for naughty behavior, or if you’ve ever teased someone by briefly withholding sexual pleasure, then you’ve taken the baby steps to BDSM.